​Explosive anger problem? BREATHING CAN HELP. Three deep breaths, 10 seconds in, hold for a beat, 10 seconds out. Three times.

This might help delay your reaction long enough for you to think through your immediate impulse to blow up and instead actively choose to do something else about your anger. Punching bag, scream into a pillow, work out, etc. These are all good outlets/coping skills but I think the key might be stopping the problem before it starts.

If you're noticing your anger is due to repeated unpleasant situations, we need healthy boundaries. Take time to reflect and notice what the aggravating factors are and where they begin. Then address the root of the problem as best you can. Trial and error.

​You're feeling overwhelmed and work won't slow down? Take your "smoke breaks" even if you're not a smoker. Anger sometimes comes from a sense of helplessness. But there are always decisions (even small ones) that can be made in the interest of self preservation and peace of mind. 

Much love, 

Eva